LEARN HOW TO ATTRACT THE OPPOSITE SEX TO A RELATIONSHIP

Are you looking for a partner – a girlfriend, boyfriend, lover, wife, husband, etc ? if your answer is yes you’ve got to read this article carefully and act on it.  A good partner does not come to you on a platter of gold.  You need to do a couple of things to get you the kind of partner you are look for.  Whether you are a woman or a man, it does not matter. You must be proactive and try a couple of things to get you the right partner. 

Here are 14 of such things that will increase your chances, either as a woman or man to get a date.

MAKE YOURSELF AVAILABLE

You can not get a partner easily if you are the type that stays at home all day long or you leave your home early in the morning to work then comes home late and go to bed.  You need to come out of your shell and mix with people instead of holing up in your house and dreaming of meeting Mr. or Miss Right.

It does not work that way you have got to visit places and the more places you go, the more you increase your chances of meeting a potential partner.

GO TO PLACES YOURSELF

Ladies in particular should take notice of this.  If you are highly in need of a man make sure you go out alone.  Most of the time going out with a pack of friends is not ideal.  Most men no matter how they fancy you would not have the boldness to come and talk to you in the midst of your friends.  It is easier for them when you are alone.  And again being alone is a sort of indication that you are really “single” and a man is more encouraged to approach you than when you are with friends.  Again when you are with friends, there is the chance that some of them are prettier than you or they are one of those ladies who attract men like magnet.  Available men might be interested in them more than you and you do not stand a chance of being approached.

The above also applies to men.  When you are out alone, a girl you approach will take you more serious than when you are in the midst of friends.  Rightly or wrongly, she might think you guys are on a  “hurting expedition” and you and your friends are only out to look for girls you can lay.

So it pays more to go out along when you are looking for a partner than when you go out with friends or other company.  Although the type of places (s) you go also matters and we shall talk on this later in this article just read on.

STRIKE UP A CONVERSATION

Be bold and always make the all important move of striking up a conversation.  This is one great reason why the right guys and girls do not seem to get the type of partner they deserves – they are simply tongue-tied.

It is not enough to venture out alone, but when you see someone who interest you do not just hope and pray he or she wills say something to you.  You start the conversation yourself.  It does not matter whether you are a lady or man.  It may amaze you sometimes those ugly girls seem to get fine guys and ugly guys end up with very pretty and sometimes rich girls.  The secret here is that those ugly girls or men are bold and can start a conversation with someone of the opposite sex, anywhere and in any situation.

It is always good to start a conversation and get the attention of the person you want.  The person might be so close to you but he or she might not have noticed your presence, even though, you are already dying for him or her.  The person‘s mind may be somewhere or he simply has not noticed that the person sitting next to him is a beautiful and gorgeous person.  The only way to get the person’s attention focused on you is start a conversation.  If you are at an art gallery for instance, ask the person of his or her opinion a piece of art.  When in a video or electronics store, ask something like this “Have you heard anything about this product? I’m thinking of buying it if the person is holding a book, magazine or newspaper show some interest in it.  Ask or make a comment on something on the cover.  In short, wherever you are, whatever situation, if you think creatively you will get the right question to ask somebody to start up a conversation.  You are a lady, it does not mean you are flirting or cheapening yourself.  No it is not some element of desperation, if not aggression to get what you want

GO TO CHURCH

A church is primarily a place of worship and not a place to look for a husband or a wife. But with the kind of churches we have these days, things have changed. A church is far more than just a place of worship these days.  Lots of people have used the church to meet partners and you can do the same.

Many churches have gatherings and sponsor trips for their congregations and definitely you will meet a person you like in one of those occasions

Whatever be the case do not forget the last point we discussed: Striking up a Conversation.  You can join a church and be in the midst of so many beautiful and potential dates. But if you are a tongue-tied, you might not get them for a date.  Always try to open up and start a conversation with people.

JOIN A CLUB

It is not enough to join a church; join a club as well to further broaden your horizon and improves your chances of having an ideal date.  But in joining a club, let it be a club that is devoted to something you are interested in such a book club, a drama club, a writer ‘s club etc

THROW A PARTY

If you have some money to spare, why not throw a party to celebrate your birthday or some other event.  If you are a single girl looking for a man, this is one sure way to get one.  Some of your friends will come with male friends and acquaintances – some of them single men.  Meanwhile, you are the celebrant all eyes will be on you.  Some of those men who came to the party would want to know one or two things about you.  The fact that you are not with any man is a clue that you could be single.  They will want to dance with you, chat with you and before you know it you have got yourself a date.

WORK ON YOUR APPEARANCE

The reason why you do not have a date might be due to how you look.  As a man, if you look dirty with bushy hair and beard, dirty clothes and a generally rascal appearance, no lady in her right senses would want to date you.

The same goes for a lady looking for a man.  If you look dirty like a slut, men will avoid you.  Furthermore, you need to keep a good shape. You need to exercise eat a healthy diet, practice good grooming and dress in outfits that flatter your figure and always leave the house looking nice you never know where you will meet someone new.

FEEL GOOD ABOUT YOURSELF

What you feel inside is what you unconsciously project outside.  Projecting a positive energy is always a turn on.  It attracts new people and possible new dates to yourself.

BE CURRENT

Be current about social, economic, political and other matters happening in the country. 

When you are current and know what is happening around you, you are quite a confident  person and when you strike up a conversation with someone you are able to sustain the conversation and display your versatility.  It is a sure way to make people get hooked to you.  You sell yourself quickly as an intelligent, well educated and confident person.  These are attributes that many people are looking for in a partner.

It is needless to suggest that the way to be current is to ready widely especially mature newspaper and magazine articles and also watch quality talk shows on television.

PUT THE WORDS OUT

We all know the saying that a problem talked about is a problem half solved.  Ladies in particular should take note of this.  There is no need pretending.  If you need a decent person to go out with say it.  Let your friends know you are interested in meeting someone.  If they are close and good friends they should know what type of partner would suit you. 

PERSONAL ADVERT

Another guaranteed way to get a date is the use of personal advert in magazines.  You can place your own advert or read the ones advertised and see if you can see someown who meets your requirement.

However, you need to be careful and use your common sense in dealing with personal adverts like these.  A lot of the people who advertise or who will respond to your advert are either gold-diggers or those who simply want to have sex and dump you.  Ladies in particular should be wary in dealing with personal adverts.  Do not give out your house address so easily.  For a long time, let your dealing with the person be limited to going out to public places such as eateries  ( Mr Biggs, etc ) Use this period to study him or her before you can get to another level with him or her.

THE INTERNET

Lots and lot of people are using the internet now and it is a means you can explore to get a partner.  Good enough, so many website dedicated to dating are now springing up.  But we must warn you to “shine your eyes” Most of them are after your money and they render little or no service to you in return.  Just be careful and avoid being a victim of scam.  However, if you do get a genuine dating site, your dream of getting an ideal partner can be realized quickly.

TAKE CLASSES

Not necessarily auto mechanics, but classes not only help you learn new things, but find new friends.  When trying to meet Mr. or Mrs. Right, you need to keep in mind the three rights: right place, right time, and right attitude.  Without all of those, your efforts will probably be in vain. You need to put yourself in the right place – a place where the odds will truly be in your favour. The right time means that when you do meet someone, you have to want the same thing at the same time.  Otherwise, it won’t work.  The right attitude means you have to stay positive and open-minded.  No one wants to date someone with the wrong attitude.

                                                               

PRAY

Does this sound funny?  No, it is not.  We get away with so many things through prayer.  God listens to prayers and since He is the one that initiated marriage and other civil unions among humans.  He will listen and grant your prayers for an ideal partner.  So, while you do the things mentioned above do not forget to pray to God to reward your effort.